One the golden rules of being single and dating is to never play your good cards too soon i.e. don’t have sex on the first or second dates. Rather, you should bide your time and get to know an individual before you bed for them. Now, obviously this rule differs for both men and women because it is automatically assumed that men want sex, while women are supposed to maintain a “sexual gatekeeper” image. But is this viewpoint slowly starting to fade now that women are being more assertive when it comes to approaching men?
We say yes, but we’re sure many of you guys out there will say no. The reason we say that it’s alright really depends on the situation. Obviously, every circumstance is different and we’re not condoning sleeping with someone you hardly know because that’s no way to start a relationship. For example, lets say you met someone at a party and had a really interesting conversation with them. You got their number, and went out on a first date. You chatted more over drinks or dinner, and there was some making out and heavy petting but no sex. On the second date, you repeat the same pattern and end up sleeping together. The key here is that you have had time to converse and consider whether you actually like each other. You know she has a pet turtle named Romeo, and she knows you don’t like Hazelnuts. On the other hand, if you’ve just been to the movies or out dancing at clubs, then the chances aren’t good that you know each other too well, and this would not validate having sex too soon.
Either way, it’s to the individual and their own personal beliefs. Women can gauge whether a man is accepting of a women’s right to have sex when she feels like it, or whether he’s slightly conservative and thus more likely to judge her. We say, it shouldn’t matter – if the connection is strong then trust your gut. If you like someone, sleeping with them (no matter how soon) is not going to change very much.